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Semi-retirement :
​The Untold story

Semi-retirement: The Untold Story

4/18/2015

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Even though you know it is coming, because the calendar counts down the days for you, like it or not, when you are in a relationship, the idea that you could be spending ever day with your partner is, to say the least, a defining moment in ones life.

What I had not expected was the constant mirroring of our egos. Fearful of the illusion of losing control over our daily choices and actions, the first part of the last six months has primarily been about negotiating our respective space. At least for me it has been about setting boundaries, while for him, it has been about removing the apparent obstacles to his constant need to be heard, respected and appreciated. 

That said, please keep in mind, this is a very one-sided post. I asked a few of my girlfriends and their partners to share with me some of their own experiences. They were very similar to mine. When one reaches the fifties or sixties, the couple relationship falls out of the quiet truce into a virtual house of mirrors. One walks forward and then suddenly the path is blocked by the mirroring of the other. This opportunity for reflection is both very useful and annoying.

You feel like the calm before the storm and back to the calm. The only constant is this feeling of walking on egg shells, not sure when the next step will crack open a fissure. It is fascinating to observe, because it is an intense microcosm of the human experience with the energetic exchange defining its quality moment to moment. It is very much like a dance and duel combined. 

Not unlike our individual thoughts, our primary relationship, in the latter part of our life, points towards the aspects of ourselves which require both understanding and release.
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    • Letter to My Heart
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    • Search For Meaning
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    • A Welcoming Community
    • Behind the Headlines
    • Moonwalk
    • God is a Verb
    • Heart to Heart
    • Importance of Play
    • The Heart of Math
    • Peace Pilgrim Revisited
    • Chasing Success
    • Message in a Book
    • Steve Jobs: The Lost Vision
    • Your Hero's Journey
    • Cracked Open Buddha
    • Your Personal Guidance System
    • My Universe
    • Into the Aleph
    • Be the Change
    • Me, Myself and I: Sticky Stuff
    • Paranormal: The New Normal
    • Beauty in Fractals
    • Life is a Mystery School
    • Self-Love and the Butterfly
    • Spirituality and Singularity: To Be or not 2b
    • Multidimensional Travel
  • Experienced
    • When Fighting Windmills, Remember Who You Are
    • Expansion and Contraction
    • Simply Showing Up
    • Back Pain Teaching
    • Body Image
    • Be the Stranger
    • Parent Rehab
    • Life is a Fractal
    • Soul Pilgrim
    • Semi-retirement: The Untold Story
    • Conversation from the Other Side
    • Transforming I to Eye
    • Sharing Your Experience
    • The Book of Life
    • Meeting my Higher Self
    • Living in a Fort
    • Calling all Angels
    • Family Beyond the Veil
    • Becoming the Tree: Oneness
    • Manifesting Maya
    • My NDE
    • Messenger: Student and Teacher
    • Open Channel
  • In Conversation
    • The Importance of Being Human
    • The Day the World Ran out of Toilet Paper
    • Do I want to be happy?
    • Go With The Flow
    • What Does Freedom Mean To You?
    • Identity Less is more
    • Rethinking Astronomy
    • Dream Your World
    • Clueless
    • Living with Cortana
    • Techno Future
    • Love, CERN and Burning Man
    • Sing Your Song
    • What if...
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    • The Disappearance of Privacy
    • Beyond The Story of "I"
    • My Latte Meditation
    • Phone Calls From Heaven
    • The Great Debate: Fate vs. Free Will
    • Everything is Spiritual
    • Collect Experiences not Debt
    • Observing Territorial Control
    • The 3rd Way
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